I have tried my best to not restrict myself with descriptions, so I can act truthfully to my self-in-the-moment. If I had described myself as an introvert, or as any other description, I would be compelled to act, if not extroverted, then at least extrovertish, for example.
It would be an image held by, if not myself, then at least by someone hearing the attribution. They might think "Well he is really quiet. I thought Jill said he was very funny and outgoing."
It wouldn't be as bad if you didn't get stuck with those definitions. Buddhism helped me in my life a lot. Categorizing myself as a Buddhist, not so much.
That's because I needed an outside help to tell me I don't need to be stuck in Buddhism any longer, but rather be true to my current self.
If you get stuck into a description, and live by that description without thinking if it is any longer relevant to your interests, therein lies the problem.
Be what you are, even tell people what you are if you want to, but keep this in mind. Even if you would not, other people will get stuck to definitions.
"I thought you were gay!" "I wanted to watch this movie with you because I thought you liked thrillers!"
It might have been true at some point.
Update yourself if you need to describe yourself. Don't be stuck at 45 thinking you just love doing something, when, if you thought about it mindfully, you're just doing it because you don't know any better.
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